is my marriage going to the gutter?

by admin

There’s just no nice way to say this… so I won’t say it.

Go back and re-read what you wrote. If you can’t see the problem then I’m not sure what to tell you.

You’re a score keeper. You’re adding up the value of the gifts you two give? That’s shallow as hell. What’s up with that?

If you judge somebody by the value of their gifts, you’re thinkin’ is a bit off.

Look at yourself first. You’re the one thing you CAN do something about. You can’t change her — nor should you try — unless you want to go nuts.

Do yourself a favor and get real honest with yourself. You’ve got some problems that you need to work on. Forget about her. Work on yourself. That will bring the good results faster than anything. And if your marriage falls apart, it will have proven worth it to work on your own sh!t.

We all have our sh!t. We all do things we’re not proud of. That’s the place to start. Let it begin with you. Stop blaming this woman for your problems. I’m sure she has her own but hers have a lot less to do with you than you might think and vice versa.

Good luck.

she doesn’t know she has a good man. first STOP buying her stuff at all if she does nothing but criticize your gifts. second 16 MONTHS holy cow. I don’t want to hurt your feeling but she is getting it from somewhere. The way she is acting toward you, you can just tell. It’s about time your fed up cuz she is walking all over you. you need to find a woman that appreciates all your gifts and your company. try counseling and if that don’t work divorce. life is way to short to be so unhappy.

Best Of Luck

I think you’re putting too much stock into how much your gifts cost each other. Just because she spent less money on you doesn’t mean that you are the better one in the relationship. However, I can see what you’re saying about not quite feeling like she means much to you as far as holidays, i.e. special days you show each other how much you care. Have you talked to her about any of this? If you’re married, I’m assuming you’ve known each other for some time and have a history of being vocal about your concerns, but you don’t mention any of this. If you haven’t already, talk to her about your feelings without attacking her- tell her plainly how you feel about her actions and how they make you feel.

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