I want to save my marriage: was this a good way to handle things ...

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Ok first I have to say I love the way you tell everyone to answer the question and if they violate it you will report them, go you. I think that you handled this will dignity and grace. I would try not to result to name calling because that can make it worse. I do suggest that you guys try counseling again. I commend you for caring about your marriage enough to move him back in and force him to work on it, that is what a real woman would do!!! Go you!!! I do think that he should sleep on the couch too. I agree with you about getting tested for STD’s. Also I want to suggest a book to you, that is designed to help people save their marriages, its called the Love Dare. Its a Christian book, and you read it each day and you have a task to do each day for your husband. You keep doing the book, even if he pushes you away, and even if you feel like you are the only one trying, trust me this book works it has saved many marriages. Also you can watch the movie Fire Proof, the book is based off the movie. Its the best movie, you can even make your husband watch it too. You can also try to get him to do the book too. I posted a link to the book, I hope that this helps, and you can check out the website, you can order the book online or buy it at any Christian book store. I wish you and your husband the best of luck and I hope that yall can work things out. If you have more questions feel free to email me.

It seems to me that you focus too heavily in your marriage on what you want your husband to do differently, than on what you could do to make your marriage better. You identify political activism, and taking care of his family as the two main factors that create distance between you. But the fact of the matter is that you could become politically active alongside your husband, which would make it a shared activity that would promote bonding. You could also help him take care of his family, which would not only make him feel gratitude toward you, but also endear you to them. Both these steps could potentially produce very beneficial effects on your marriage.

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