Can I Save My Marriage?

by Coach

If you are asking yourself  “ Can I Save My Marriage ?” don’t feel alone. Statistics show that the divorce rate in America is currently up to sixty percent.  Before you ask yourself that particular question; you need to ask yourself how your relationship got to this point.

Is this your first time on the brink of divorce ? Or could it be your second, third, etc… If this is the case you should really analyze why you are in this predicament once again.

What is the problem in your marriage? In order to salvage your marriage you need to get to the root of the problem. Could the problem be finances, infidelity, not focusing on your partner; the list could go on and on. In my opinion, lack of communication is the root of most failed marriages. Marriage is supposed to be a team effort. Communication is the key to any successful team effort.

Back to the question at hand, you most certainly can save your marriage . Now, once you have thought about what has been the breakdown of your marriage; what are you to do now?  What tools do you need to get your marriage back to the way it used to be?

First of all, listen to your partner. I didn’t say agree with everything your partner said; but listen. The way to become a better listener is to practice “active listening”. This is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, to try and understand the total message being sent. Effective communication can be hard. Especially when there are various different emotions involved.

If this will be difficult for you; I recommend marriage counseling. It has been proven that couples who attend counseling together reported significant improvement in communication. It is often helpful to have a third party involved. When I say third party, I mean someone that has no connections with either of you. It is essential to have an unbiased opinion. After all this is your marriage at stake.

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